POKER phenomenon PHIL HELLMUTH is the author of #POSITIVITY – an inspiring book which is giving inspirational advice to millions of people around the world. In his brilliant column exclusively for MilliOnAir Magazine, Phil asks a series of positive questions to a celebrity from the world of business, showbiz or sport. Here he puts the POSITIVITY questions to International Brand Consultant & Creative Strategist YOSSI FISHER who is connected to many businesses and creative people around the world.
In conversation with Editor at large Laurie Stone
WHY is positivity as opposed to negativity important to you.
Positivity to me means progress & living with a growth mindset. It means being able to look at life’s challenges and roadblocks with vigor. Our self-talk and the way we view our lives is crucial to any form of growth; be it personal or professional. With a negative mindset I wouldn’t have been able to achieve anything in my life. Being able to say to myself “ok, this might be crazy & this may really put me to the test, but I know I can do it”, has fundamentally been what has propelled me forward. Imagine if I said “no way I can do this” or “I know this won’t work out”, I never would’ve even tried and my life would be very different than it is today.
The one thing people need to understand with positivity is that it doesn’t mean things don’t affect you & that everything is going to work out. It’s a frame of mind that gets you through life’s challenging times. That’s when true positivity shines. Anyone can be positive when things are going great, but it takes a special kind of growth mindset to face life’s challenges and still find ways to come out on top.
WHAT is your earliest memory of an act of positivity.
When I was a little kid, probably like 6 or 7, I remember a moment of positivity from my Mom that I believe truly shaped the human that I am today.
One night for whatever reason I was in my room sad and crying. My mom heard me from the hall and came in to my room to see what was the matter. When she saw me crying, she said “be sure to make a wish for every tear that falls from your eyes so that when you grow up life will give you more reasons to smile.”
Reframing that sadness by creating something to be happy about has stayed with me my whole life, and really how I try to look at all life’s situations.
WHO has had the most positive influence on your life and why.
I’m grateful to say there are a few too many to mention. Another reason why a positive mindset is so important. It attracts the same type of people towards you. Of course I’ve encountered tons of negative people, but I’ve conditioned myself to just pivot away from that type of energy & recessive mindsets. It’s up to us to decide what type of energy we gravitate towards. Negative people love pulling things down, while positive people evoke progressive ideas and focus on lifting people up.
For the ones reading this and feel like there’s no positivity or growth mindsets around, sometimes at first you have to be that person for yourself for a while. Listen to speakers online that resonate with your values and models some of their habits. Seek out mentors. Where attention goes energy flows and in time, you’ll find you’re meeting more people that align with your same type of personal and professional values.
WHAT is the most positive piece of advice you pass on to people you meet.
Find the courage to follow your dreams and the resiliency in your heart to never look back.
HOW do you deal with negative people.
Most negative people don’t choose to be that way, so I try my best to face anyone with empathy. Perhaps they’re acting that way because of the people they let surround them. Maybe they’ve been burnt one too many times or have experienced some trauma that took hold of their lives. I don’t believe that most people want to be negative, they’ve just let the world around them condition their mindset over time. Like I said before, positivity isn’t always an you need to work on it over time. It’s a choice, just like negativity. It’s up to us to decide which one we want to nurture.
”For the ones reading this and feel like there’s no positivity or growth mindsets around, sometimes at first you have to be that person for yourself for a while. Listen to speakers online that resonate with your values and models some of their habits. Seek out mentors. Where attention goes energy flows and in time, you’ll find you’re meeting more people that align with your same type of personal and professional values.”
WHAT is the most positive song on your playlist.
“We Should All Burn Together” – Russ feat. Ed Sheeran (You wouldn’t think so by the title I know lol but trust me, well worth the listen)
IF you could sit down with six positive people who would they be and what qualities would they bring.
Tom Bilyeu: Self-awareness, Accountability, and Grit Determination
Gary Vaynerchuk: Ambition, Hustle, and Enthusiasm
Rei Kawakubo: Inspired, Audacity, Grace
Rob Dyrdek: Systematic, Mindful, and Adventurous
Brendan Burchard: Practical, Analytical, and Observant
RuPaul: Savviness, Playfulness, Visionary
WHAT is the most positive film you have watched.
My top 3 positive / inspiring films of all times, in no particular order are:
• Good Will Hunting
• August Rush
If I had to pick one, it would be from that list 100%
”The one thing people need to understand with positivity is that it doesn’t mean things don’t affect you & that everything is going to work out. It’s a frame of mind that gets you through life’s challenging times. That’s when true positivity shines. Anyone can be positive when things are going great, but it takes a special kind of growth mindset to face life’s challenges and still find ways to come out on top”
WHAT’S the most positive piece of advice you have been give: When/Where/Whom.
It’s hard to pinpoint one person or moment really. I’ve always been one to seek out knowledge, and have gotten some great advice from my mentors along my journey. I read a lot though and am a big quotes person, so here are a few of the ones I could say that have fundamentally shaped my life:
“Most people don’t fail in life because the aim to high and miss, but because they aim too low and hit.” – Les Brown
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.” – George Bernard Shaw
“All dream: but not equally. Those who dream in the dark recesses of the night awake in the day to find all was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, and make it possible.” – T.E Lawrence
WHAT is your inspirational catchphrase.
Timeline is irrelevant when success is inevitable.
WHERE in the world are you in your most positive state.
Positivity for me isn’t a place, it’s a state of mind. I believe life is all about how you look at things and that is something always within our control. For example, you could easily look at rose bush and say “Such a shame that these roses have all these thorns growing out of them” or you could reframe your perspective and say “It’s awesome that from this thorn bush these beautiful roses grow.” Ultimately, how we see or feel about things is always up to us. I truly believe that.
IF you could be known for one positive achievement in your life what would it be.
That I gave more to the industry than I took.
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